It's a Saturday night.
You've been in college for over two months.
According to most people, you should be out partying with all your new friends, having the time of your life.
Well I'm one of those students yet I am sitting in my dorm room typing away and watching Friends on Nick at Nite.
Before you assume I am one of those people who hides herself in her room, munching away on chips and sweets as I eat myself away to obesity and watching chick flicks, you should know that I'm not.
I enjoy going out with friends and meeting new people. I enjoy bonding and having a blast with others.
In high school I had a group of friends that I could always call up to hang out with or to grab a coffee/ smoothie. But I chose to go somewhere new for college and to forgo the easy route by going to the same college as my friends. I wanted a chance to explore and to take a chance. Before, I had always thought of myself as a person who can meet new people easily and become friends. I had seen new people come to my school and be accepted into our school's social scene. I wanted to try that, and to branch out. College was an opportunity to take a chance.
Now that I'm here, I no longer feel that way.
I miss my friends, I miss my old lifestyle.
I don't feel like I belong here, at this college.
I have gone out, I joined a sorority and various clubs and groups. But everyone here seems to have a set group of friends and I am not included in it.
In the sorority house, the girls seem accepting but the older girls seem to have selected their freshmen that they want to hang out with and I am not in that crowd. I joined a religious group that really seemed to fit me until one girl back stabbed me at a getaway and then other girls whom I met and seemed to had made friend with on the trip no longer talk to me- its a simple hi in the hallway or they just ignore me.
There are nice people here that I have met, but they have their own thing going on and I don't want to intrude. I don't like inviting myself to things. I want to know I am wanted and they don't say I can come out of guilt or lack of respect.
My dad gave me some good advice, when he went to college after Thanksgiving break, he didn't think that he would miss any of the people he met at college but by Winter/Christmas Break, he realized how much he missed the people he went to college with and couldn't wait to get back (he had gone to a college out of state where none of his friends from high school had gone to).
I have five weeks until Christmas break, and the time at which I'm suppose to realize that I love my college. But right now, all I want to do is transfer. Whether I transfer to the big college one of my best friends attend or to a smaller college, it's up in the air.
All that I know right now, is that the college that I am at now, is not the college for me.
The next step, abide a scary one, is making sure that I make it work at the next college because I do not want to transfer again. I am already going to have to start over and its going to be even hardder because most people will have their circle of friends.
Who knows what the future has in store for me. But I hope that it is good because these past two months here, at my current college have been the worst months of my life.
And its time I find a place with people that accept me for me and want to get to know me without making me feel bad about myself.
You've been in college for over two months.
According to most people, you should be out partying with all your new friends, having the time of your life.
Well I'm one of those students yet I am sitting in my dorm room typing away and watching Friends on Nick at Nite.
Before you assume I am one of those people who hides herself in her room, munching away on chips and sweets as I eat myself away to obesity and watching chick flicks, you should know that I'm not.
I enjoy going out with friends and meeting new people. I enjoy bonding and having a blast with others.
In high school I had a group of friends that I could always call up to hang out with or to grab a coffee/ smoothie. But I chose to go somewhere new for college and to forgo the easy route by going to the same college as my friends. I wanted a chance to explore and to take a chance. Before, I had always thought of myself as a person who can meet new people easily and become friends. I had seen new people come to my school and be accepted into our school's social scene. I wanted to try that, and to branch out. College was an opportunity to take a chance.
Now that I'm here, I no longer feel that way.
I miss my friends, I miss my old lifestyle.
I don't feel like I belong here, at this college.
I have gone out, I joined a sorority and various clubs and groups. But everyone here seems to have a set group of friends and I am not included in it.
In the sorority house, the girls seem accepting but the older girls seem to have selected their freshmen that they want to hang out with and I am not in that crowd. I joined a religious group that really seemed to fit me until one girl back stabbed me at a getaway and then other girls whom I met and seemed to had made friend with on the trip no longer talk to me- its a simple hi in the hallway or they just ignore me.
There are nice people here that I have met, but they have their own thing going on and I don't want to intrude. I don't like inviting myself to things. I want to know I am wanted and they don't say I can come out of guilt or lack of respect.
My dad gave me some good advice, when he went to college after Thanksgiving break, he didn't think that he would miss any of the people he met at college but by Winter/Christmas Break, he realized how much he missed the people he went to college with and couldn't wait to get back (he had gone to a college out of state where none of his friends from high school had gone to).
I have five weeks until Christmas break, and the time at which I'm suppose to realize that I love my college. But right now, all I want to do is transfer. Whether I transfer to the big college one of my best friends attend or to a smaller college, it's up in the air.
All that I know right now, is that the college that I am at now, is not the college for me.
The next step, abide a scary one, is making sure that I make it work at the next college because I do not want to transfer again. I am already going to have to start over and its going to be even hardder because most people will have their circle of friends.
Who knows what the future has in store for me. But I hope that it is good because these past two months here, at my current college have been the worst months of my life.
And its time I find a place with people that accept me for me and want to get to know me without making me feel bad about myself.
I know exactly how you feel - honestly! When I started university (I'm from the UK!) I really struggled to find a group of people that I really felt like I fit in with and it wasn't for lack of trying! I went to flat parties and made sure I went out whenever I was invited and went on knocked on doors in my accommodation to say hi and introduce myself. But I just didn't fit in. In the end I ended up transferring to another university and I loved it from the very first second. I got on a lot better with the people and I just felt a lot more comfortable getting involved with stuff. It was the best decision I made! So I know how you feel. Good luck with your decision anyway! :)
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Thank you so much- you have no idea how much that made my day or should I say my week!Everything you say in this about your first college is exactly how I feel about the one I'm at right now. I go out and try to meet people and hang out with them but I just don't feel like this college is right. I am going to try and stick it out for the year. But thank you for the post- it's nice to know I'm not the alone with this problem
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